4 Things Women Should Consider Before Quit Their Job After Marriage

Guys, my friend asked my opinions if she quit her current job and help her future-husband-to-be’s family business or start a new business. Well, when someone asked my opinions, I’ll be straight to the point of what I think.

My friend had grad for two years and she just had her first job in April 2017 which is less than half of a year. I know how she wants a job and also know her current job is stressful for her and she complained she had a pain in chest because she tries to control her anger.  However,  be an unemployed for almost two years, you know how much her PTPTN debts increased??

There are lots of aspects that she needs to consider before she quit her job.

Her deceased farther had gone during our third years in university. As the eldest, she had many responsibilities and I know how depressed she is because she wants to bring her duty as an eldest correctly. Help her siblings, her mother, cover up family economy and so on. When she got her job, I am one of happiest person and really grateful for her. So, you know why I kinda disagree with her decision.

Economy crisis
So I mentioned her future-husband-to-be which is mean she will gonna engaged by next month and later will get married. Their relationship is out of sudden because they never met before and they know each other last month through their family. So, just imagine how she needs to prepare the money for marriage. It is not easy for her because she just employed and besides that, she needs to think more serious about after marriage life. My brother-in-law once reminds me not just depends on my husband but also to help him on family economy especially with nowadays economies. So, for me, I don’t want to waste my degree and need to work for my future even after married.

The unclear future
I am not hoping for something bad happen to her. But as a reminder to her and also to all women out there, please be careful for you unclear future; everlasting happy ending or divorcee! Please, I also hate want to say about this, but I need to.
This is my own sister’s experienced. She is smart, graduated from top university but she quit her job after married and followed her husband to North region. After 5 years married, they divorced because they’re always had arguments and my sister have nothing likes wealth, or money except her children. Yes, she did have a small business by selling nasi lemak to hostel’s student but it is not enough to raise her children. Only by menuntut nafkah anak, she managed to buy her children’s essential. And surprisingly, this is also happened to others single mothers.

So please! You don’t know yet your destiny of life, so please do not too over excited to be such a lovely housewife without any profit. Be smart for your own future.


Being unemployed is stressful, being employed is also stressful. So everything that is unpleased in our life is stressful! So when she said about business, it is also a stressful job. I am agreeing have our own business is better than be employee but if she cannot manage her stress, then I afraid it would not everlasting. That’s why I kinda feel uncomfortable when she said she want to quit her job because it is stressful. Don’t she know, doing something that you liked and suddenly it do not come well like expected it is stressful than everything?

In my case, my fiance’s parents want him to take over their business. I do remind him if he wants to take the risks, then he must ready to have big and many responsibilities so he would not mess up the existing stable business. Be rational, disciplined and have principals in your job. If not, do not put your parents down!

I am kinda jerk when I am giving opinions and that’s why when peoples want to know my opinions, my first and last word, “Sorry if this is harsh for you” because the reality is not as beautiful in fairytales. And the beautiful part is always at the end of the story and peoples always said the end of the story is the beginning of the real story.

I do support my friend if she is really determined and think that is the best for her but I also hope she will think it deeply about her future. Guys, am I wrong to worry about my friend. I really want her have the best in her life.


Hi All and Salam Ramadhan to all muslims in the world.

Right now, I'm having mixed feeling about one of my friend. I don't know if I am still her friend or ex-friend but for me, she is still my friend because I had been known her for 7 years since study. We did have a fight since we are colleague but she mad at me because I need to quit my job drastically because I experienced these superstitious thingy when I back from work. I did give my explanations to her and she don't want to accept. It's really broke my heart when my old friend doesn't want to believe me and even didn't come to visit me so she can comfirmed either I'm lying or not. I just back to my hometown and family and luckily I have fully recovered.

Recently, I met my friends from old workplace and having iftar with them. I was really shocked of what I heard. After I got engaged, my old friend did questioned if I was serious with my fiance since my fiance only graduate from high school and I am a degree holder.


1. We got engaged and of course we're deadly serious with this relationship.
2. Even he only have SPM certificate, at least he always delicate with his job and never let himself unemployed.

Sadly, the person questioned all of this thing is educated. Why did she questioned about destiny? So, I need to have same or higher education than me so that she will consider it is a serious relationship? Even my family didn't questioned his education level and very welcoming him in my family and same goes to his family to me. That is enough for me to have serious relationship.

Be in relationship, it is more than be knowledgeable. Compromise in everything, understand to each other, and make the love grows everyday is the key in relationship. That is how to work the relationship.

The education level is wasted if you cannot think, act and do like one and it will make others judge your humanity level. Just saying.

How I Know The Crush Means.

It start on November 2015. I was a senior supervisor at electronic factory and this is my first time ever to work in manufacturing industry. I have a cheerful personality and always smile when meet with other people except with man. Actually at that time, it had been about three or four months since I broke up with my first love. I moved on but I don't want have any commitment in relationship.

My routine every morning was refill the water tank since I need to handle many big machines. I need to walk back and forth between my workplace and production side since I just had two 2L jugs. Every day I need back and forth 10m x 10 times. Sounds easy but it kinda troublesome.

One day, there is a guy opened up a door for me. I throw a smile (because someone being nice to me) and said thank you but he only make a stone face. Few days later, I walked with my friend and saw him. I told my friend that guy have a babyface looks. I want to say handsome but I don't want my friend get me wrong and the babyface term maybe the right way to replace it. Hihi. And my friend replied that guy maybe same age with us and I kinda shock because I thought that guy looks like a teenager. Bwahaha. And she said that guy already had a girlfriend. Disappointed? Nope. Not yet.

So, I know a little bit about his name and his real age. Guess what, he is a year older than me. His supervisor workplace just beside me and sometimes he came to meet his supervisor and of course I had a chance to see someone with a good looking. Most of the men in my factory are old, bald and unattractive. Hehe.

We started to have a conversation when he needs to give a mask since his work need to mix the chemical that produce a pungent smell. And there is where we start our friendship. He is totally a joker and annoying. It had been a while since I'm comfortable with other guy besides my first love. And I don't know when I started waiting for him to meet his supervisor. I realized that I had a crush to him but I cannot told him because he already have a girlfriend. Yes, I know my limit and I wouldn't over it.

We did hangout twice. First, hangout at Mamak after working overtime. Second, he took me to some places because I am new with the state. It just like friend hangout and nothing more than that. But sometimes his gesture made me blushed for a while. You must be wonder if his girlfriend know about our outing? He admit that he didn't tell his girlfriend because he have some issues with her. Me being happy about it? I don't like to look him in that way so I did advised him that his girlfriend is young and in her age, it is normal to her being childish. I know he didn't buy it because he is kinda egoistic.

Mid-December, I don't know where was wrong when he start to drift apart from me. I felt anxious. He did came to his supervisor room but he didn't greet me at all. All I can do was looked his reflection through the mirror. I know why this feeling named crush. Your heart is crushing cause you cannot let it out and express the love to that person. Not at all when that person had a lover. And I was powerless.

p/s: please do correct my grammar and I want to learn some new words for my story.

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