4 Things Women Should Consider Before Quit Their Job After Marriage
19.7.17
Guys, my friend asked my opinions if she quit
her current job and help her future-husband-to-be’s family business or start a
new business. Well, when someone asked my opinions, I’ll be straight to the
point of what I think.
My friend had grad for two years and she just
had her first job in April 2017 which is less than half of a year. I know how
she wants a job and also know her current job is stressful for her and she
complained she had a pain in chest because she tries to control her anger. However, be an unemployed for almost two years, you
know how much her PTPTN debts increased??
There are lots of aspects that she needs to
consider before she quit her job.
Responsibility
Her deceased farther had gone during our third years
in university. As the eldest, she had many responsibilities and I know how
depressed she is because she wants to bring her duty as an eldest correctly.
Help her siblings, her mother, cover up family economy and so on. When she got
her job, I am one of happiest person and really grateful for her. So, you know
why I kinda disagree with her decision.
Economy
crisis
So I mentioned her future-husband-to-be which
is mean she will gonna engaged by next month and later will get married. Their
relationship is out of sudden because they never met before and they know each
other last month through their family. So, just imagine how she needs to
prepare the money for marriage. It is not easy for her because she just
employed and besides that, she needs to think more serious about after marriage
life. My brother-in-law once reminds me not just depends on my husband but also
to help him on family economy especially with nowadays economies. So, for me, I
don’t want to waste my degree and need to work for my future even after
married.
The
unclear future
I am not hoping for something bad happen to
her. But as a reminder to her and also to all women out there, please be
careful for you unclear future; everlasting happy ending or divorcee! Please, I
also hate want to say about this, but I need to.
This is my own sister’s experienced. She is
smart, graduated from top university but she quit her job after married and
followed her husband to North region. After 5 years married, they divorced
because they’re always had arguments and my sister have nothing likes wealth,
or money except her children. Yes, she did have a small business by selling
nasi lemak to hostel’s student but it is not enough to raise her children. Only
by menuntut nafkah anak, she managed to buy her children’s essential. And
surprisingly, this is also happened to others single mothers.
So please! You don’t know yet your destiny of
life, so please do not too over excited to be such a lovely housewife without
any profit. Be smart for your own future.
STRESS!
Being unemployed is stressful, being employed
is also stressful. So everything that is unpleased in our life is stressful! So
when she said about business, it is also a stressful job. I am agreeing have
our own business is better than be employee but if she cannot manage her
stress, then I afraid it would not everlasting. That’s why I kinda feel
uncomfortable when she said she want to quit her job because it is stressful.
Don’t she know, doing something that you liked and suddenly it do not come well
like expected it is stressful than everything?
In my case, my fiance’s parents want him to
take over their business. I do remind him if he wants to take the risks, then
he must ready to have big and many responsibilities so he would not mess up the
existing stable business. Be rational, disciplined and have principals in your
job. If not, do not put your parents down!
I am kinda jerk when I am giving opinions and
that’s why when peoples want to know my opinions, my first and last word,
“Sorry if this is harsh for you” because the reality is not as beautiful in
fairytales. And the beautiful part is always at the end of the story and
peoples always said the end of the story is the beginning of the real story.
I do support my friend if she is really
determined and think that is the best for her but I also hope she will think it
deeply about her future. Guys, am I wrong to worry about my friend. I really
want her have the best in her life.
3 comments
Lovely. First time reading and i like this.
ReplyDeleteThan you adam :)
DeleteI agree! It's better for women to have some kind of safety net like a secured jobs because we never know what might happen in the future.
ReplyDeleteBtw, did you change your blog url? I tried finding yours before but the link brought me to the 'blog not found' sign